Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Leave Here With a Smile

"God, help me move forward at the speed of your direction and intention, no matter how painful the transition may be." - Steven Furtick.

This prayer is so powerful, particularly right now as I'm trying to wrap my head around my recent breakup with B. After three and a half years, our relationship is over, and while it hurts to let go of something that has meant so much to me, I can walk away joyful knowing that I'm a better person because of what we shared and knowing that God has different and better plans for both of us than anything that we've known to this point.

The Lord used the time we shared to teach me about myself and about other people and relationships. It is so comforting and exciting to know that He will use those things to propel me forward
relationally and
in ministry. No relationship (romantic or otherwise) is a waste of time, and I certainly know that while this one has ended differently than I may have imagined at one point, I know that each moment we spent together was valuable and purposeful.

This simple but deep and meaningful prayer will always be on my lips and in my heart.

20 comments:

USCEmily said...

I am so sorry to hear about this, but I'm happy to see that you have such a positive perspective on it. I wish you the best of luck. No break-up is ever easy, but I am confident there is someone out there perfect for you!

Aly said...

I'm sorry to hear about your recent breakup. Even if it's the "right" thing to do, it's still so difficult. I'm here if you need me!

April said...

:( I would say "sorry" - but you and I both know that you're right...and nothing like this happens without something good happening as a result. You sound strong and very "with it"...so I'm happy that you're able to handle it so well.

Mrs. G said...

I am so sorry to hear this, and I know it is hard. You have such an amazing outlook on this and thank you for sharing it. I think more people need to think this way. myself included. Keep your chin up!!!

Heather said...

Wow. I am so impressed with your outlook and words of wisdom. Thank you for sharing them. May God continue to bless you in many ways. Hang in there!

Colin's Mom said...

I'm sorry to hear about your breakup but I'm so proud of your positive take on it. Keep your head high and Mr. Right will come along! Prayers for you!

Brittney said...

I am so sorry to hear about your breakup. Though I am uncertain of the details, I hope you know that your words are so true-- the Lord has your entire life planned. Trust in Him.

Elle said...

Oh sweet girl, I'm sorry for the heartache that comes with ending a relationship!

Another prayer I cling to: Lord, today help me see the grace you are offering me in the poverty I feel in this situation...

I think "poverty" is such a great word to describe emotional voids....

Red Lipstick Style said...

Prayer and faith is never more important than we are going through a nightmare. I love the quote that you gave to us. A verse I love is 'I will never leave you or foresake you; see, I have carved your name into the palms of my hands'. Break ups are sooo hard, but if you can see the positive (as you are) you are on your way to the great things He has in store for you.
Hugs,
Shari

Kim said...

so sorry to hear about your breakup - you seem to have a very positive attitude about it, which is wonderful!! keep your head up!

Just Add Walter said...

just found your blog and wanted to say hi...

you have a wonderful outlook on things. breakups are so hard no matter how short/long they are. I know its cliche, but taking things one day at a time is the only way to go.

PS: I just noticed you are from CLT... me too!!

BLC :o said...

You are sitting pretty my friend!!! Chin up and let the line begin. I heart you and hope all the best is headed your way (hopefully he is tall, dark, and very handsome). Xoxo-BLC

QueenBeeSwain said...

sweetheart you are in my thoughts and prayers and are incredibly strong and sweet to find a sliver of hope and positivity in what you are going through.

kHm

Rachel H. said...

Thinking of you! It's tough to start the healing process and to move on, but you can do it and as you said, you've grown and learned and you are a better person from it!

AEOT said...

I'm sorry- breaking up is always hard, even if it is the right thing to do. God has amazing plans for your life, so be open to whatever it is that comes your way. Allow yourself plenty of time to heal first though!!

Tara Gibson said...

I am so sorry to hear about this sweet girl, but i love how you are so positive about it. You are fabulous and dont let yourself forget that!

DSS said...

Oh my! I hate to hear you are going through this. I love your positive attitude about your relationship, and it's purpose in your life! Take from an old lday, you are absolutely correct:)

Every guy I have dated (significantly) has been very special to me. I have learned something from each of them. I will always be thankful that they were in my life so that I could learn those lessons. Even if I hurt at some point in the relationship, it was always worth having.

However, the adjument of no longer having someone in your life isn't easy. Not matter if it is the right thing for both of you or not. I hate that you are hurting right now, but you are such an amazing girl I know without a doubt that you will be smiling again in no time!

Thinking about you,
T

Nutritious is Delicious said...

Amen! You are one strong lady!

Miss Golightly said...

I am so sorry to hear about this. but it is so encouraging to hear your words and your wonderful outlook. continue your faith in Him and hang in there.

sarah @ life {sweet} life said...

I'm so sorry, but also SO proud of you. You definitely have the right attitude, and it will serve you wonderfully as you move forward. I was about your age I'm guessing (24ish) when I had a broken engagement that really changed things. I knew it was for the best, but still hard nonetheless. Looking back 5 years later, I am SO glad I stayed strong and walked away from something I knew I needed to. It caused me to grow and find happiness...and I know you will too! :)